WORDS FROM MY HEART BY AKEROBE
Someday you’ll find the other side of the bed empty and wish you could.
Never keep score in love
Scoreboards are for sports games, not marriages
Laugh until you cry
Laughing together goes a long way to smooth the inevitable bumps in the road.
Never stop dating
I’m 99 and still courting my wife! Marriages don’t get boring, you stop trying
Do one act of service for your partner every day, but never tell them about it
Take out the trash, refill the soap dispenser, put away the toys. Tiny acts of love and respect add up over time.
Time doesn't heal when it comes to relationships
Don’t delay difficult conversations.
Don’t fear sadness, as it tends to sit right next to love
This is part of the fundamental balance and tension of life. The joy of love comes in the same package as the pain of loss.
No one has ever argued their way to a happy marriage
When facing a challenge, face it together.
It can't always be 50/50
Sometimes it will be 90/10, sometimes it will be 10/90. All that matters is that it adds up to 100.
Maintain interests and passions separate from your partner's
Marriage should not be the end of individuality.
When in doubt, love
We can always use more love.
If your relationship has a minor issue, repair it
Minor issues become major issues over time. Furthermore, most minor issues that persist or repeat are a result of a more fundamental issue with the foundation. Address those swiftly, as they won’t repair themselves.
Never raise your voice with your partner
Nothing good has ever come from shouting.
Every relationship is a work in progress
The mutual desire for improvement is what builds a lifelong bond.
You cannot take care of your partner if you aren't taking care of yourself
Make a list of your daily needs to feel good. Make sure you and your partner are able to accomplish that list.
Is it more important to be right or to be married?
Stubborn pride is the downfall of relationships.
Always be quick to say "I'm sorry."
If you are struggling to apologize, go for a short walk, breathe, and try again. It’s (almost) always worth it.
Don't sweat small stuff
If there’s something bothering you, ask whether it will matter in one month. If not, let it go right now.
Start every day with a hug or a kiss.
It’s a simple reminder of your love that goes a long way.
Fun Fact: I had to edit this piece of advice from 90-year-old Carl, married for 65 years, to make it more safe for work. His original advice was: “Start every day with a kiss (and more).” Go get ‘em, Carl!
Take pride in building a family with strong values.
Create ripples that last.
Marriage should always take priority over your birth family
Remember that when the two feel in conflict.
Never involve a non-professional 3rd party (parents, friends, siblings, coworkers) in disagreements
You’ll forget about it, but they won’t.
Keep doing the little things.
A note under the pillow, a surprise bouquet, a peck on the cheek. Romance never goes out of style.
Love is a muscle
Know that your love will be tested, but that each test has the potential to leave it stronger.
Complementarity is just as important as compatibility
Allow each other the space to lead within different domains in your relationship.
Your love is yours
Forget the approval of others. You won’t be able to make everyone happy. Accept that and embrace each other.
It doesn’t have to be perfect for it to be wonderful
There has never been a perfect
relationship, but there have been many
wonderful ones.
All You Need Is Love
